Remember a time when you were enjoying a feeling of accomplishment only for a friend or family member to come to you and tell you about how your achievement isn't a great feat and you just ended up losing your mind over it? Now every time you have to work towards accomplishing something, you don’t feel like it and always end up second-guessing yourself.
Well, this has happened to the best of us. Your confidence perhaps got crushed and now you don’t know how to restore it. Being told you are not enough or being constantly criticized can surely create a big dent in your mind that can further lead to you not feeling confident enough. Someone can criticize you for a minute but the experience of going through it may last for a really long time and hinder your growth. At times not feeling confident can make you seem powerless.
Well, confidence is the key to success because it helps you take the first step towards the journey of accomplishing something. Confidence can be considered synonymous with self-belief. And to achieve anything, you need self-belief to get started; perhaps a voice in you that tells you that you are capable of achieving your goals. Confidence is the trust you have in yourself that you can handle stressful situations through your journey of achieving success.
Believing that you will figure out how to achieve your goals despite not knowing how to get there is a trait of confident folks. But there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance which we should be mindful of. Confidence pushes you to take action. On the contrary, not having confidence usually holds you back. Think of any famous personality who inspires you. Chances are they were confident about their ideas and it’s their self-belief along with the consistent effort that helped them reach where they are today.
Confidence helps you get out of your comfort zone! When you feel confident, you get to be the best version of yourself and that eventually ensures your happiness and well-being .
Here are some tips that may help you to build or even rebuild your confidence:
1. Spend time with positive people
Socializing with people who are confident may immensely help you in inculcating confidence in yourself. It is said that the people you are surrounded with, affect your confidence, so make sure you spend time in a good environment.
2. Make confidence a habit
You read it right, the secret to building almost anything is to develop a habit of it. Just like being confident can be a habit, being unconfident is a habit too that you need to break out of. One way to do this is by implementing daily affirmations. Wake up every morning and tell yourself that you are going to have a great day ahead.
3. Stay away from naysayers
We all have some people around who cannot be positive no matter what. While it may not seem like a big deal, you can feel the negativity affecting you. If this is something that happens to you, remember that you do not need to respond to the naysayers, sometimes just ignoring them helps. But, if they constantly bring you down, stop hanging out with them. Learn to say no.
4. Get over the imposter syndrome
In simple words, imposter syndrome is the feeling of constant self-doubt and thinking you are not good enough as others perceive you to be. So, you feel like a fraud. Celebrities like Lady Gaga, Oprah Winfrey, and Serena Williams have all struggled with imposter syndrome. A way to overcome this is to acknowledge how far you have come and not to be afraid of giving yourself a pat on the back once in a while.
5. Pay attention to the posture
Studies show that our body language has an impact on the way we feel. Sitting up straight in your chair is not only good for your posture but it also exudes confidence. Additionally, paying attention to your body language can help immensely. Example: keep your chin up, give a firm handshake, make eye contact.
Pro tip: Dress well.
For example, you have an important meeting that you need to ace. Make sure you dress well. When you dress well, you feel good on the outside and it also reflects on the inside. This helps you boost your confidence.
Remember, in the beginning, it is okay to try and fail. This will only help you in the future and build your confidence and make you stronger. Not everyone is born confident. It comes with a lot of practice, patience and perseverance.
Think of confidence as pixie dust. Just like how pixie dust is the magical glitter that helps fairies fly; confidence is the magical ability that helps you get closer to success. I hope this helps you grow and be more confident moving forward! :)
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