We all know of someone who constantly brags about their achievements. More so, they introduce themselves through their accomplishments and find a way to bring them up in every conversation that they have.
However, we also know of someone who is constantly stuck, unable to move on from past disappointments. They persistently keep on beating themselves up about it. This is a classic example of someone who is low on self-worth.
Oftentimes we measure our self-worth on the basis of our past, our profession, our relationships and our salaries. All of these are external factors that have a huge impact on us.
We attach our self-worth to the pursuit of our goals and thus begin the quest to grab that next promotion. We convince ourselves that earning a better income will make us feel fulfilled and worthy. But more often than not, it doesn't, right? Why so?
According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs theory, a satisfied need no longer motivates a person, only the next higher pursuit can. Maybe that’s why we are so perpetually restless, dissatisfied and low on self-worth.
Self-worth is a tricky trait to measure and a term that is often misunderstood. Some days you feel like the best version of yourself, and other days you feel like you couldn’t possibly be any worse. The truth is that your self-worth fluctuates constantly, and it has nothing to do with external achievements.
Self-worth is what we think about ourselves on the inside. It’s how we view our own value as a person, based on factors like character, morals, and principles. Self-worth is something that you need to work on and cultivate for yourself.
Low self-worth can lead to anxiety, depression, and a host of other mental health issues – which is why it’s so important to make sure you’re always looking out for ways to increase your self-worth. These tips will help you get started:
Learn the difference between performance and self-esteem
Just like how the number of likes that you get on your pictures on social media isn't a reflection of who you are as a person, similarly, your performance at your job does not define your worth either.
It is important to be aware of how you are feeling and the thoughts that are going through your mind. This will help you in identifying the root of your unhappiness and make changes in your life that can improve it.
You should not compare yourself to others and think that if they have more, then you are worth less. You need to remind yourself of what you do have and be grateful for it.
Do what makes you happy!
In order to increase your self-worth, it’s important to focus on the things that make you happy. Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid those who don't.
Take care of yourself
Eat right, exercise, and get enough sleep. Be kind to yourself and take time for yourself each day. Make sure you spend 30 minutes a day pursuing an activity that you love.
Pro tip: Stop chasing the wrong metrics!
If you determine your self-worth through factors like net worth, social media likes, and good grades, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment in the future. Stop going after temporary self-esteem boosters and instead focus on your core values and beliefs.
Determining your self-worth will help you establish a strong foundation and bring you peace and contentment. Also, remember that your self-worth is constantly evolving, and it’s up to you to decide how much you value yourself.
Start every morning with positive affirmations. Say to yourself, “I am worthy. I am loved. I am enough.”
I hope this helps you realize your value and live to your truest potential. Here’s to a healthier, happier and more fulfilled version of you!